How to Date with Girl

So many men will get confused when it comes to dating women - period. They will think that because you have to study, learn and re-apply in any area of life that this is also a requirement when it comes to dating and success with women.

Yet, ironically this is the big thing getting in their way of success with women and dating because they’re making it more difficult than it really is.

This answer became clear to me when I was playing a video game (which I don’t do that often). This video game is not natural..it’s man-made. I am not good at it but I’m getting better.

Anything that is consciously derived by humans HAS to be learned, taught, and worked on to improve mastery. You could consider it a ’social skill’.

This is the essence behind mastering any skill, any sport or any area of expertise. You could say to even understand quantum physics is not natural, it’s also a uniquely human skill.

Mankind has gotten so good at applying himself to learn the necessary ’skillsets’ required in about any area, that he automatically thinks it applies to dating and seduction itself.

Other experts will even say that ‘it can be learned’. This is the essence behind the entire seduction community and its movement. It’s like picking up the video game where everyone starts out terrible but with enough practice and failure (like in any skillset) one can get to a level of mastery.

It’s like rising up in a social hierarchy or having more status, experience and tenure.

So the pickup artists will focus on the exact skills like how to approach, what to say, how to carry yourself, etc. They’ve made a science out of something that used to come secondhand to everyone.

And with enough failure, a man will learn to get more consistent success with playing the video game of ‘dating’. For most real men though, that is too much work and can be psychologically damaging.

Well, the good news and big picture is that the mating process is one of the few things that is not a human-derived or consciously developed SKILL.

It’s NATURAL. It’s biological. Both men and women were born with ability to know the mating process (look at ‘Return to Blue Lagoon’). It’s instinctive and it doesn’t just include men ’sarging’.

Women have to respond but men are being the wrong stimuli and taking the wrong approach; that’s part of the dilemma.

What has happened is that we’ve got so caught up in our social ‘development’ that we just have to ‘unlearn’ a lot of things and get back in touch with our own biological character.

And then, all we have to do is operate on that more natural and emotional level (instead of the socio-logical level where women can easily reject you).

Then it’s much easier to find the natural and responsive feminine character/energy within a woman.

That natural character within her is to be cherished but it MUST be differentiated from her socially derived character because there, women are not necessarily saints anymore either.

It’s not your fault as a man to take all of the burden, but you must understand your relationship to this behavioral reality so that you can start being a desirable man in the eyes of women.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don’t want to ‘act’, use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.

He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org

He also has a free podcast at http://www.lifestyledatingradio.com

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Many people are of the opinion that men and women are the same when it comes to character and personality. But they are wrong. What they don’t understand is men and women were made different physically as well as emotionally. Women may have equal understanding as men, but most of the time they don’t think that deeply to draw a conclusion or solve a problem the way a man solves it. In order to resolve issues, especially issues related to relationships, one has to be clear about the differences between men and women and then act accordingly.

First and foremost difference between men and women is their way of problem solving. Their thought process is entirely different when it comes to household issues, and therefore they both propose different solutions to the same problem. Men usually don’t consider a lot of issues as problems, whereas women take almost everything that causes tension and uproar in the house as trouble which if not solved correctly will lead to more difficulties and more tensions. Men have to understand regarding this matter and let their partners happily go about solving small household issues.

Men and women also differ in their approach to communication. Men are usually secretive about their inner thoughts and feelings and most of the time they like to resolve their problems internally rather than discussing them with their partner. Women on the other hand are more open and want to discuss each and every problem that comes up with their partner. They want to lighten their burden by doing so and for that matter they expect the man in their life to be an active listener and a good advisor. Men have no such expectations from their partner.

Sensitivity is another area where men and women differ from each other. It’s a universally known fact that women are much more sensitive than men. A woman needs an outlet for her emotions. Most of the time she calms her senses through tears. Men are sensitive too, but they don’t like to show the world their weaker side. They hide their feelings well behind that fa

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1. Take her somewhere that you go often - You’ll give yourself a lot of credibility and value if you take her to place where everyone knows you. Stop and chat with the staff there. Learn their names and make sure they know yours. It only says good things about you. If you don’t have a place like this yet, make one.

2. Take her to an interesting restaurant - It’s a lot more fun to go eat sushi or some type of authentic ethnic food than just going to a more common restaurant. You don’t want it too be so interesting that there’s always something crazy going on and you can’t talk to her. Just make sure it is a little different.

3. Relax - The more you relax and show that you’re comfortable, the more your date will relax. If you feel like you’re getting nervous or tense, just take a deep breath, relax your shoulder muscles and smile. Just focus on having a good time.

4. Get rid of your expectations - So many guys that I meet wrap expectations around everything they do. They think, “buying dinner = she’s going to be my girlfriend or wife.” If you just spend the time that you’re together having a good time, acting like you would around someone you already know well and show that you couldn’t care less if anything happens between the two of you, you’ll have a much better chance of progressing things than if you act like she’s the first girl you’ve seen in twenty years, acting really nervous and so dumb that she runs away.

5. Don’t talk about normal boring topics or “guy topics” - If you want to be like every other boring guy out there, talk about what job she has, where she has gone to or goes to college. Only talk about guy topics like sports, lifting weights or something like that if SHE is already very interested in them. Also, don’t cling to a topic like it’s the only thing you can talk about. If a conversation dies, let it go.

6. Have a story or two that you can tell if you run out of things to say - One of the best ways to keep a conversation going is to have a few stories that you can tell at any time. When the conversation stops, just say, “Anyway,” and go into a story. The story doesn’t have to be something too amazing, just a little bit different.

Tell a story about a date that you went on where your date did something embarrassing or funny. Women love to talk about relationships and I’ve found that they are the easiest to come up with. If you’re having problems, just grab a girly magazine and read it for 15 minutes. You should find more than enough things to talk about in there.

7. Know a little bit about a lot of things - You can ask me about almost anything and I probably know enough about it to talk for at least 5 minutes. The more you know about, the easier it will be to hold conversations on just about any topic.

8. If your date wants to talk, listen to her - People like to talk and get the feeling that what they have to say is important. This doesn’t mean that you should ask her endless questions trying to get her to talk. If she’s not talking, feel free to. But, don’t interrupt her if she is.

9. Don’t try to impress your date - One of the worst things a guy can do is talk about how much money he has, what kind of a car he drives or anything else that comes across as trying hard to impress. If you do have a cool house or car, let her find out when she sees it. And if she isn’t impressed by it, don’t be surprised. You’re much better off by just being a relaxed, fun, cool guy than you are trying to impress her.

10. Have a plan - You should have your date planned in advance. And although you should have it planned, you should also be flexible. If something comes up that could be a lot of fun, don’t be so rigid that you can’t change plans. Your plan should be more of a guideline so that you always have something to do.

Matt Buschbacher teaches men all across the world how to meet and date women. He offers books, audio programs, seminars and workshops where he takes people into social venues and teaches them how to meet women. Visit his site at http://www.datethewomenofyourdreams.com/ and download a free sample of his book as well as get other great information about women and dating that will cut years off of your learning process.

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